This would be my first entry on my blog for this year. And I want to start it with sharing an article regarding love and relationship. Since I have been surrounded with broken-hearted people, this article may help them (somehow) to get up.

The 5 Stages of Grief After a Relationship Break Up

When there has been a dramatic change in our lives we feel a sense of loss for what has been. This is true if a long term relationship has ended or even a shorter term relationship where we have felt very intense emotions and love.You are in fact feeling the emotions of grief. By understanding the stages of grieving you can move on more quickly to a point where you can rationally decide your next steps for the broken relationship. This may mean moving on from a relationship totally or making plans to get back together with your ex.

Not everyone follows the 5 stages of grief in order, sometimes stages are missed all together. Sometimes you may move backwards and forwards through the stages in a roller coaster of emotions. Everyone is different. By understanding the grieving process you will recognise what is happening and this empowers you to take control.

1. Denial

When you have broken up you may initially feel numb. You know the relationship has ended but can not take it in that you have actually broken up. You hope that things will be "OK" later in the day or that things will be back to normal in the morning. The denial stage rarely lasts long as your ex does not come back home or return calls etc.

2. Anger

When you break up you often feel angry and look for someone to blame. Often rational thoughts go out of the window and we look to punish the person we feel is to blame for the break up of the relationship. This can be a very dangerous stage of grief. In a rage you may take some actions that will destroy any chance of getting back together with your ex, or even may be illegal and get you into serious trouble.

3. Bargaining/Buying your ex back

Some people actively try and buy back their ex and offer some sort of deal to get back together with their ex. This would include things like offering to move house, give up friendships or things you enjoy in return for a relationship. While this may seem ok in the short term, the underlying issues why the relationship broke up in the first place are not addressed so the new relationship rarely lasts. It also makes you seem desperate to your ex and may drive them further away.

4. Depression

When the anger about the relationship break up is over, you can often feel depressed. Everything feels hopeless; you have no energy, feel paralysed and don't know what to do next. This is when you realise fully that the relationship has ended and you will feel there is nothing you can do that will have a positive outcome. Depression is a difficult stage as often you will not have the energy to make changes to come out of it. Recognising the depression stage of grief is important and taking small steps and setting goals to come out the other end helps. If you find you are depressed for a while or are thinking of harming yourself, please seek professional help.

5. Acceptance

The final stage of grief is acceptance; you agree and accept that the relationship has ended. Now is the time to start making changes to move on. At this stage you will also be able to rationally think if you do actually want to get back together with your ex or to put the relationship behind you.

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I miss blogging. I can't understand why for some reason I stopped doing it. Maybe too much happened to me in the past months that didn't allow me to share something in my blog.

I'm back. It's my rest day today and I'm doing nothing. I home alone, watch TV, checked email, cooked something, had an afternoon nap (very great) and since it's raining hard outside, it's a perfect time to write a blog.

During the last quarter of 2010, I would consider it as one of my darkest hour. We have to live separately with Mama and Papa. They have to live in Tagaytay (very far from us) as a call of duty. Those are the times that makes me cry in the middle of the night because of missing them so much. It's our first time to be away from them and the thought that it's for good really makes me sad.

Months passed and I'm still trying to figure out if I can still managed to live without mama and papa. I'm so dependent. My friends always tell me that maybe God has purpose of letting this happen to my family. But what can I do? I need to be strong and maybe the only thing that keeps me going is that Papa's health condition became better. I remembered, when we're still living together, there's always chaos. Mama and Papa always argues. Papa is not doing good co'z he's always drunk and that makes him vulnerable. God is really good. He find way to end our problems and the fact that they're also doing good there, that's more than enough to make me feel blessed. The only thing that makes me sad nowadays are the thought that we have to be away though it taught me how to do things with my own.

Now, I'm living with my sister together with her fiance'. First couple of month is good and I would say that what Mama and Papa told us before the separation lives us within. I just don't understand what's happening now. Where's the happiness, love and friendship that we build in the beginning of being together in one roof? I'm stressed. I want to live with my own. I want to be with myself. I don't want to be with them anymore. If it's not only for Mama who told me to stay here and help Ate financially since she's paying equity for her acquired property, I would moved to somewhere near to my workplace. I'm tired and sometimes can't help but cry just because of these things. For some people, I'm still blessed. Others don't even have a complete meal for one day. Sigh!

My life's journey has just started. I'm already 26 now and one thing I realized, I need to set my priorities. Though I have them on my mind, I think it is much better now to keep going and be motivated with these long term goals. I have to love and value my work so that I have something to support my plans. Settling down is not easy and a proper planning has to be taken.

Reaching our dream is like a punch in the moon. While it's getting closer, it is harder and more difficult near the end. Success does not measured by material things, it is something that's intangible. Whatever the outcome of my plans, I'm still proud that I did it with my own.

Hot Spotz

I've been thinking lately where to spend a short vacae or maybe a weekend gateaway. I did consider out of town but no one will come with me, if only jerwin & merwin are here, surely we will have a blast in Tagaytay or Batangas. Summer hasn't end yet though its raining hard everyday. People still planning vacation activities and looking for a great spot to spend. Listed are some vacation spot that would help you enjoy with your love ones

• Terrazas de Punta Fuego - Punta Fuego's newest enclave, Terrazas is situated within a two-hour drive from Manila. Conveniently located in Nasugbu, Batangas via Tagaytay-Nasugbu Tourism Highway is the closest clean water beach destination south of Manila, 10 minutes away from Peninsula de Punta Fuego and 30 minutes away from Tagaytay City. It boasts of 800 meters of fine white sand and pristine clear waters making this the best swimming beach in Nasugbu, Batangas. Unique landscape affords many wonderful scenic views of either the Batangas mountain range or the South China Sea.

• Day's Hotel Tagaytay - Day's Inn 1998 International Property of the Year - 5 Sunbursts and Chairman's Award Winner - The invigorating climate provides the Hotel with a cool ambiance perfect for a relaxing stay - It is considered by many as the most beautiful hotel in the country - It has 48 standard rooms, 12 superior and 8 deluxe - Each room has its own balcony overlooking a spectacular view of the lake and volcano - Days Hotel Tagaytay features a scenic elevator, a roof deck restaurant and bar, swimming pool, kiddie pool, a function room for 120 people, a business center, specialty shops and other services such as travel, tour arrangements and shuttle service - All rooms have a porch overlooking the world famous Taal and Volcano - Scenic elevator overlooking the lake - A bar with see through glass panels - 20 minute drive to championship golf courses of Nasugbu, Batangas - 10 minute drive to city proper - 5 minute drive to government office complex - 45 minute drive to the towns of Taal and Talisay, the starting point of the trek to the volcano cone